As far as the feminine clothing goes, that is very common among submissive men. Everything about women and the feminine excites you and you are curious. Women are mysterious to a lot of men. Wearing female clothing, shoes, etc can be very sexually exciting for a man. It is like embracing the feminine and exploring the feminine. This is a very common fetish. Many young boys have their first sexual urges and excitement from touching and even trying on their mother's or sister's bra, panties, or pantyhose. Again, this is exploring the mysterious world that is the female. Many adult men never outgrow this fascination or excitement. By wearing these articles of female clothing, it is natural for this to cause submissive desires within you and cause you to want to submit to the female. You have laid aside your macho male personality and ego and have embraced that which is feminine and forbidden by society. This causes your submission to stir within you. It says to you "If the mere clothing of a woman has this power over me, how much more power would the female herself have over me?"
Forced feminization allows a woman to be more aggressive. FF causes a man to become very weak and submissive. His ability to resist and object go by the way side and he is very vulnerable. Women love this because now they can do whatever they want with their helpless victim. Now the woman can be the aggressor and she can have her way with the man. The man is not threatening to her and she no longer fears his strength or masculinity. Women have told me that they have a very strong desire to take a man very forcefully with a strap-on dildo when he is feminized. The desire to rape the feminized man becomes very real to the aggressive female and the actual act becomes very satisfying to her. Again, it sends such a message to the man and society. It says that the woman is the aggressor and the giver and the man is the weaker sex and the receiver.
Why does your husband feel embarrassed and shame when you feminize him? It is because he is trying to hold onto his masculinity. He probably enjoys being in submission to you but he still wants to maintain some of his male pride and masculinity. Some dominant women like for their husbands to keep some masculinity whereas other women want to strip their men of all masculinity. It boils down to what you want out of him as a dominant wife. If you want to strip him of most of his masculinity, then forced feminization is a great way to do it.
Most of the men I have counseled and interviewed about what they experience when being feminized do testify to the fact that they enjoy being humiliated and emasculated by the superior female. Other men will say that they have always found the world of the feminine (soft lingerie and undergarments, cosmetics, etc) to be exciting and thus being feminized allows them to experience the thrill of being immersed in the feminine. And some men experience a combination of all of the above. Again, each person is unique with their own unique sexual and psychological triggers. It is the variety of the female domination lifestyle that makes it so exciting.
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