Every Which Way

Bedtime in Babydolls

Office Sissy-Boy

Emerald Gaze

Crossing the Line

More thoughts from Hannah McKnight:

I define being transgender as any deviation from the traditional gender and societal norms for the gender we are assigned to at birth. Yes, this is a broad perspective but I like that it can cover quite almost all of us. Whether you are a drag queen, a part-time t-girl like myself or you just enjoy panties or painting your nails, we are all under this inclusive umbrella.

Under this definition, I have always been trans. Even before I knew how to spell it, I was transgender. And I will still be transgender in ten years from now. This isn’t something we outgrow. If you’ve been reading my ramblings for a while you know that the hill I will die on is that this is not a phase.

Accepting myself as transgender has given me the confidence, and in a way, permission to wear whatever I want. There are some of us who want nothing more than to wear that red dress we saw at the mall. But we just can’t do it. Buying that dress means that we are entering a new world. We would cross that line from “I wonder what it’s like to wear a dress” to “I own a dress”.

Hypno-Bride

Archelle in the Pink

Tied for First

Philandering Sissy

Mesmerizing Makeover

Unfinished Errands

Tangled

More advice from Hannah McKnight:

The most common question we are asked is WHY. Why do we do this? Why do we want to? Why do we choose to wear bras and heels? We fumble and incoherently answer these questions without a convincing or satisfying answer. We don’t know why we are who we are. Usually the answer to these questions is simply “I just like wearing skirts” or “I love to feel beautiful”. These answers are honest and real and true, but also vague.

But we also ask these questions of ourselves. There is no answer. There are reasons, but there is no real explanation. We know how to go and come back from the moon and why the sky is blue but not why I love to wear lingerie. Besides the obvious reasons, of course.

Equal Treatment

Sweater Girl Archelle

On Your Knees for March

What Makes a Sissy?

November Glamour

Wanda Wateva

It Will Never Be Okay

Our friend Hannah McKnight offers some more good advice:

Anyone can wear a skirt. Anyone can paint their nails, even if it’s tricky to paint your right hand with your left hand. Clothes don’t know that society has placed expectations and norms on who can wear them. If it fits, you can wear it....

My point is that even if the newspapers all over the world printed a headline that read “It’s Okay to Wear Whatever You Want”, it’s still not going to be “okay”. It’s not “okay” for me to wear whatever I want. But that’s fine, I don’t need permission from anyone when it comes to something like clothing. Even if that headline was published, there will always be the change someone will laugh, point or threaten us whether we are rocking those stilettos or simply glaming up our eyes with a little mascara.

We need to stop waiting for permission. We need to stop waiting for some authority to “let” us do what we want and wear what we want. It will never come. It will never be okay.

But it TOTALLY is.

What? Me Worry?

Lady-Like Posture

Best Behavior

Time Off for Bad Behavior?

Erotic Errands

March Dressing 2: Clingy Red and New Shoes

The second outfit with the second pair of new shoes:



The red turtleneck sweater dress is by B-Design, bought at Burlington in October 2018; details on the shoes are below. Other accessories are a red floral headband, black-and-white jewelry, black belt and natural hose.



And here are the shoes:



They are Dexflex Comfort "Karmen" red suede pumps from Payless earlier this month.

A note on the portraits (also applies to the pics posted on Tuesday)--for a variety of reasons, all the eye makeup is digital this time around...eyebrows and eye shadow included. For this set, I decided to go with violet eyes and eye shadow to match. I think it works pretty well.

Next dressing probably not until this time next month.

It'll Never Be Okay

A fascinating essay from Hannah McKnight:

I am not aware of any state that has laws that says that men cannot wear eyeliner or yoga pants. Let me know if I’m wrong. But what the law says and what societal norms are can be very different. Just because there is or isn’t a law about something it doesn’t mean people will change their opinions and attitudes.

My point is that even if the newspapers all over the world printed a headline that read “It’s Okay to Wear Whatever You Want”, it’s still not going to be “okay”. It’s not “okay” for me to wear whatever I want. But that’s fine, I don’t need permission from anyone when it comes to something like clothing. Even if that headline was published, there will always be the chance someone will laugh, point or threaten us whether we are rocking those stilettos or simply glaming up our eyes with a little mascara.

March Dressing 1: Stripes and New Shoes

Well, every cloud has a silver lining; for me, the sad news of Payless's bankruptcy and going out of business sale has been brightened by my ability to go there and buy a number of pairs that I wouldn't have afforded otherwise. This outfit shows off the first of them.



The blue striped dress is from Kmart's Attention line in March 2012; the shoes are highlighted below. Other accessories are a blue bow, silver jewelry, and natural hose.



Here's a close look at the shoes:

They are Dexflex Comfort "Katee" navy mary-janes, bought at Payless just this month, as noted.

And a couple of portraits:

There will be one other outfit, including another new pair of shoes, later this week.

Archelle's Quiz

Pose or Punish?

Interested?

Best Behavior