Friday, September 29, 2017

Cross-Dressers Are Not Necessarily Gay

Some thoughts on this subject from this site. I recommend reading the entire essay.

The myth that (all) crossdressers are gay is due to lack of knowledge....

Given the lack of education regarding this, people are left to their own limited reasoning abilities in a subject they know nothing about. For many non-crossdressers, the process plays out something like this: “If a man dresses like a woman, he must be trying to fool and attract other men and therefore be gay.”

There are many variations of this perverted reasoning, but the general idea is usually the same. Irritating as it is, I can understand why na├»ve people work it out as such. They have no real knowledge to draw upon, so they take what little they know and draw their own (incorrect) conclusion. This false line of thinking is passed on to others through conversations and discussions when the topic surfaces. Because there is a certain logic to this assessment, however inaccurate, it becomes reinforced and solidified in people’s minds. The myth is perpetuated in favor of the truth. Many people will even try to fight and argue against the truth when confronted with it.

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Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Tuesday, September 26, 2017

Poll Results: Dani's Best Look--Week 23

Here's the winner in the final week of the first round:



And now we move on to the second round, where the process will be different. I will be posting each of the 23 round one winners, one at a time, and asking you to rate them on a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being the best.

So here's the first contestant:

The black pin-stripe twofer is by Worthington, found in a thrift shop in January 2012; the black short skirt is from Kmart's Attention line in January 2011; the footwear are Jaclyn Smith "Tisdale" boots, also from Kmart in November 2014. Other accessories are a shiny bow, silver jewelry, silver belt, and natural hose.

As usual, cast your vote in the poll to the right.

Monday, September 25, 2017

Sunday, September 24, 2017

September Dressing Four: Office Blues

A perfect look for the office:



The blue striped blouse is by Lineage, and the blue pencil skirt with buttons is by Appraisal Plus, bought bought at K & G in September 2013; the shoes are Fioni "In the Mix" navy felt peep-toe pumps, from Payless in February 2011. Other accessories are a blue bow, silver jewelry, and natural hose.



And two portraits:



Next dressing session in early October; please respond to the survey at the right (details here)!

Saturday, September 23, 2017

September Dressing Three: Stripes!

Had an unanticipated opportunity to dress earlier this week:



The striped sheath is by Haani, bought at Ross in April 2016; the shoes are Predictions Comfort Plus "Janine" light blue patent pumps, from Payless in April 2016. Other accessories are a striped bow, gold jewelry, and natural hose.



And a couple of portraits:



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Friday, September 22, 2017

Cross-Dressing Is Not a Choice

I urge you to read this entire article:

Plenty of (non-crossdressing) people seem to believe that crossdressing is nothing more than a personal choice. They think that for whatever reason, some guys just decide to go against the grain of society and wear women’s clothing and makeup. Maybe they also believe that we enjoy the ridicule and rejection we often face as a result of our “choice”.

Myth: A crossdresser chooses to dress in women’s clothes, doesn’t need to, and can also choose to stop. Fact: Crossdressing is a very necessary outlet for feminine self-expression in some men. It is no more a choice than choosing to be left-handed or right-handed.

It’s difficult to find a good analogy that will properly illustrate the inaccuracy of this crossdressing myth. There are many comparisons that can be made, but few carry enough weight to suitably convey the reality. Because most (non-crossdressing) people are accepted in society as they are, it is nearly impossible to explain the fundamental need for self-expression and the devastating negative emotional and psychological consequences one can suffer when deprived of their ability to do so.


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Thursday, September 21, 2017

Tuesday, September 19, 2017

Monday, September 18, 2017

Sunday, September 17, 2017

September Dressing Two: Blues in the Night

One of my last purchases at Fashion Bug, before they went belly up:



The blue rectangle print dress is from Fashion Bug in October 2012; the shoes are Mossimo "Valonia" blue patent pumps, from Target in March 2009. Other accessories are a blue bow, silver jewelry, and natural hose.



And two portraits:



Next dressing session in early October; please respond to the survey at the right (details here)!

Saturday, September 16, 2017

September Dressing One: Blue and Red

A great-looking skirt and blouse combo, if I do say so myself:



The blue man-tailored blouse is by Lee Rider, bought at Wal-Mart in January 2010; the red mini-skirt is by Simply Vera Wang, from Kohl's in April 2013; the shoes are Mossimo "Velda" red baby-doll oxford pumps, from Target in August 2008. Other accessories are a blue bow, scarf, gold jewelry, gold belt, and natural hose.



I'm very pleased with these portraits:



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Friday, September 15, 2017

Coming Out and More

Another look at the advice from this site:

Telling other people

Should a transvestite reveal to his friends, family or even his partner that he is a cross-dresser?

This has to be done very carefully.

Many transvestites feel frustrated that they have to keep this part of their personality a secret, and sometimes their frustration erupts and leads to very sudden and unwise confessions in the workplace. But many colleagues are simply not ready to hear that Gerry becomes Geraldine at weekends.

Telling your wife or partner is also difficult – though some women are extremely understanding about cross-dressing.

Our advice to anyone thinking of telling a romantic partner, or indeed a colleague, sibling, friend or parent, is to first seek advice from one of the excellent support groups listed at the end of this factsheet.

Many men do tell their partners, and some of these partners enter into the spirit of the whole thing and actually help their men to dress as women. These guys are very lucky as their partners frequently stop them from making horrendous style mistakes!

One of us interviewed such a couple on a television programme called 'The Good Sex Guide Late'. This husband and wife in their 30s used to go out clubbing together as 'sisters' - heavily made-up and dressed in party clothes.

The wife really liked her husband's alter ego and said that his female side was so sensitive and loving that sharing it had enriched their marriage.

But few women are quite as happy with their man's transvestite behaviour as she was.

Sex and cross-dressing

A number of male transvestites want to go a bit further than dressing up and going out – they want to make love to women when they're 'acting female'.

In our experience, the majority of wives and girlfriends are definitely not happy with this scenario.

On the other hand, some women do find that having sex with a man who is made-up and dressed as a woman can feel quite a turn-on.

But far more females find the whole idea quite alarming and off-putting, and no man should attempt to force his partner into sex if she falls into this category.

Again, this is something to take advice about from people who have experience in this matter.

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Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Poll Results: Dani's Best Look--Week 22

I fully expected this to be the winner:






And here are the choices for the next round:

The red cowl-neck sweater is from Kmart's Basic Editions line in March 2013; the tweed pencil skirt is by Kate Hill Woman, a thrift shop find in March 2014; the shoes are Fioni "Hilt" red patent pumps from Payless in November 2009. Other accessories are a red bow, and gold jewelry.

The white cowlneck sweater with gold trim is by Say What?, bought at Forman Mills in May 2014; the purple-and-gray tartan skirt is from Target's Merona line in November 2009; the shoes are Jaclyn Smith wine suede mary-jane pumps from Kmart in August 2010. Other accessories are a purple bow, gold jewelry, and natural hose.

The blue cowlneck sweater dress is from Target's Mossimo line in January 2010; the shoes are Fioni "In the Mix" navy felt peep-toe pumps from Payless in February 2011. Other accessories are a blue bow, blue jewelry, and navy blue hose.












You can vote in the poll to the right.

Monday, September 11, 2017

Sunday, September 10, 2017