Sissies: Born or Made? Essay #4, Afterword

"Some are born sissy, some achieve sissyhood, and some have sissyhood forced upon them."

That’s a paraphrase and parody of a line from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, and I believe it is entirely true. In this series of essays, I will be exploring the idea that some males are sissies (almost) from birth, others develop into sissies on their own, and still others are made into sissies.

Afterword: Is Any Male a Potential Sissy?

Is any male a potential sissy? In my opinion, yes—although the depth to which he may succumb to the siren call of femininity differs. But it is clear to me that a substantial portion of the population is susceptible.

The evidence is in the popularity of media depictions of feminization, such as RuPaul’s Drag Race, the movies Tootsie and The Danish Girl. Each of these approaches and examines the subject from a different angle, but they all depict it in a positive manner. Other evidence comes in societal acceptance of events like “womanless pageants,” in which high school and college students cross-dress and compete. That these seem particularly popular in rural areas, which might be presumed to be more conservative, is another indication of general acceptance.

I believe that any male can be persuaded to masquerade as a woman or girl…and that the vast majority will find they enjoy it. A substantial portion will readily repeat the experience. Some of those who do will make feminization a regular part of their activities, and those activities will divide up along these lines:

A third or so will simply wear “normal” feminine attire—skirts and blouses—without any attempt to appear completely feminine. They simply delight in the feeling of feminine clothing.

Another third will go a step further: They want to be seen as an attractive female, and will adapt cosmetics, hairstyles and fashions that compliment their desire.

Still others see it all as a game, a sort of costume contest, and will wear outfits best viewed as a kind of fetish.

But all of them get an erotic thrill from their activities—and that makes them, at the least, “latent sissies”.

Sissies: Born or Made? Essay #3

"Some are born sissy, some achieve sissyhood, and some have sissyhood forced upon them."

That’s a paraphrase and parody of a line from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, and I believe it is entirely true. In this series of essays, I will be exploring the idea that some males are sissies (almost) from birth, others develop into sissies on their own, and still others are made into sissies.

Some Have Sissyhood Forced Upon Them

We now move to a different group of males…those who, by their very nature, are weak-willed and submissive. They simply do not have the strength to assert themselves. Confronted by a woman with the opposite nature, one who seeks to dominate and control her erotic partners, this male will quickly accept feminization—not because he desires it, necessarily, but because he cannot resist her superior will.

This woman, often referred to as a “mistress” or “dominatrix,” does not seek to make her partner into anything resembling a true female. He is not expected to “pass” as a girl or a woman. He is truly a sissy, forced to be a caricature of femininity. Often, even if he is a teenager or adult, he will be dressed, treated, and displayed as a very young girl—a child of seven or eight, perhaps even a toddler, in many cases an infant, complete with diapers. He may be presented as a “bimbo,” a sex-obsessed creature with overly emphasized breasts and seemingly little intellectual prowess.

He may be trained as a servant—the traditional French maid Is a frequent favorite. As such, he will be the subject of public exposure and ridicule. Indeed, his mistress will get great pleasure from humiliating him this way…and will tie his erotic pleasure to that same humiliation, so that in time he craves being seen and treated as the pathetic sissy he has become.

Physical discipline is almost always a part of this. The sissy will be subjected to spankings, often with observers. He may also undergo bondage—especially through the use of a chastity device. He may be locked into his feminine attire, so that he cannot change without assistance.

With this forced feminization, this is the ultimate sissy, the male who has been deprived of all masculinity.

Sissies: Born or Made? Essay #2

"Some are born sissy, some achieve sissyhood, and some have sissyhood forced upon them."

That’s a paraphrase and parody of a line from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, and I believe it is entirely true. In this series of essays, I will be exploring the idea that some males are sissies (almost) from birth, others develop into sissies on their own, and still others are made into sissies.

Some Achieve Sissyhood

A boy who does not meet society’s expectations of masculine behavior—who is not athletic and prefers quieter endeavors—will find it difficult to attract girls as romantic partners. This is not to say that he seeks male romantic partners; he Is usually firmly heterosexual. He wants a romantic relationship with a female—he simply cannot get one.

He usually has plenty of feminine friends who appreciate his gentler approach to things. They frequently share his interests as well—interests such as the performing arts (acting, music, dance) and the creative arts (writing, drawing, painting). He will come to admire (and desire) those girls who participate in his activities, while knowing they will never be more than friendly. He wants a closer relationship with these female companions and searches for a way to build one.

Sissies: Born or Made? Essay #1

"Some are born sissy, some achieve sissyhood, and some have sissyhood forced upon them."

That’s a paraphrase and parody of a line from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, and I believe it is entirely true. In this series of essays, I will be exploring the idea that some males are sissies (almost) from birth, others develop into sissies on their own, and still others are made into sissies.

Some Are Born Sissy

Let me be clear—I’m not suggesting there is a genetic component to being a sissy, or that it is an inheritable trait. I do, however, think that some boys begin the journey to sissyhood very early, possibly within the first 12 months of life. There are specific circumstances that can lead to this.

The first is being the “baby” of the family, the last child born—especially if he is also the only male child. As such, he is surrounded by femininity and experiences girlish things—clothes, toys, activities—as normal and desirable. His elder siblings, all female, will be his natural first playmates…and, as the youngest in the group, he will most likely be seen by them as a playtoy, a dolly to be dressed and posed.

A second is maternal domination. If the father is absent, or distant (either geographically or emotionally), the mother will come to be the dominant influence in the boy’s life, from a young age. This is very true in the single-parent situation, where all discipline and control is supplied by the mother, who will naturally be more comfortable dealing with a submissive and somewhat feminine child. In addition, the mother who is left to handle things alone will often turn to her own mother and sisters for support and assistance.

All this places the developing child in an overwhelmingly feminine culture and society. Is it little wonder, then, that he finds comfort and joy in girlish things? By the time he is pre-school age, and is beginning to act out what he perceives as his adult models—at time when most boys are pretending to be such figures as policemen, firemen, pilots—the boy in our scenario is, instead, dressing in his mother’s cast-offs and pretending to be a housewife, a waitress, or ballerina.

In other words, he is, by his own volition and through his early training, a sissy.

The Lure of Trance

Concluding the series on female domination and feminization

In any discussion of female domination and feminization, the concept of hypnosis is sure to come up. Many enthusiasts swear by it (and I am one of them).

Suggest trance to a true submissive male and he will definitely agree—after all, surrendering his will to a powerful woman is his greatest desire. And once he’s in trance, it is simple to alter his self-image to a more feminine one. A combination of hypnotic suggestion and physical stimulation will make being a girlish sissy into an erotic experience. Put him in frilly undies, pose him before a mirror, and bring him to arousal (stroke his cock, tease his nipples, fuck his ass-pussy), all while praising him for his submission and femininity and he will always associate being pretty with sexual pleasure.

Of course, further mental manipulation is also possible. Is your ultimate image of him as a prissy little girly of five or six? Hypnotic age regression can be either permanent or triggered by specific words, phrases or circumstances. Do you prefer a bimbo—a gorgeous creature with a low IQ and a high libido? You can even tie his intelligence to specific physical traits (as his tits grow, his intelligence shrinks, for instance).

Naturally, you can use trance to train him in the role you wish him to play. Will he be your maid? Under hypnosis, you can make him into a busy bee of a housekeeper Is he to be your bedmate, ready to bring you to orgasm on request? In trance, you can teach him the erotic tricks you most enjoy and tie his pleasure to yours.

In short, a mesmerized sissy is a perfect sissy.

Femme-ployment

[continuing a series of essays on female domination and feminization]

Even a female-led household cannot afford a member who does not contribute in some way, so it is essential that the feminized males either have jobs within the home or employment outside. But what are the most appropriate?

1. Maid. This is one may seem obvious. The feminized male is already servile and obedient and enamoured of the kind of tasks a maid should carry out for a Mistress. Those tasks can include cleaning and laundry, shopping (a great opportunity for public exposure and humiliation), and more intimate things like bathing the Mistress. By taking over these chores, the feminized male relieves the household budget of paying for someone to perform them.

2. Nanny/ governess. If there are underage children in the home, the feminized male can take over the role of caregiver, obviating the need to hire an outsider. If there are no children, he can offer his services to neighbors and friends. Of course, any salary for such work is paid directly to the Mistress.

3. Office worker. If the Mistress runs her own business, she can utilize her feminized male as office help. In addition to the usual tasks of phone-answering, dictation, and typing, the feminized male can provide more personal services to the Mistress and her female employees. Many femboys in this kind of job become known as “sex-retaries.”

4. Airline attendant. Many feminized males will find this role—a traditional icon of femininity—to be attractive. And again, beyond the usual chores of such a position (serving food and drink, providing pillows and blankets), the well-trained feminized male can offer more intimate attention when requested or required.

There may be other forms of employment that Mistress finds suitable for her femboy.

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He's Got Legs

Continuing a series on female domination and feminization

Ask any feminized man what his most attractive feature is and he will invariably say, “My legs”.

It’s not difficult to turn a pair of masculine legs into a set of gorgeous girly gams. The first step is removing all that unsightly hair. Whether it is done with shaving, waxing, depilatory cream, or permanently with lasers, making them smooth and sleek is the initial goal. The second step is toning—making the legs firm, supple and shapely without being muscular. Everything after that is just decoration.

Of course, to a feminized male, decoration is very important! He will be eager to slide on a pair of sheer stockings or a set of pantyhose. Add a pair of cute girly shoes, preferably with high, sexy heels, and he will strut like a runway model. And there are other adornments—a sweet little chain, for instance, can direct the eye to a curvaceous ankle. Some femboys may go for patterned hose or bright colors.

Heel height is always a question. Not every male can manage the six-inch stilettoes of a pair of Jimmy Choo pumps…but most will opt for the highest they can handle…and often the barest. Platform sandals, open-toed or peep-toed pumps, sling-backs add a touch of daring—especially combined with a shimmer of polish on those toes!

Watch the fashionable, sexy feminized sub cross his legs and smile at the feel of his nylon-clad stems sliding against each other. He’s in girly heaven!

Being a "Male Lesbian"

While the submissive feminized male may be allowed sexual release, it must never be through ordinary male-female intercourse. The feminized male is not a man and his desire for the femdom in his life is not masculine desire. He desires her in the way a woman would desire her. In short, he is a male lesbian.

His greatest lust is for the scent and taste of her aroused genitalia. “Eating pussy” or “muff-diving” brings his sissy-cock to full erection. He has no interest in penetrating her vagina; in fact, the thought of it is completely unappealing. If he is permitted ejaculation, it is through manipulation of his sissy-cock, a “hand-job” if you will, preferably while the organ is wrapped in something like silk or satin. The femdom may wear gloves of such fabric in the process.

On the other hand, there is a part of the feminized male that yearns for penetration—his anus or, more properly, his “ass-pussy”. The femdom can satisfy this need in several ways—she may wear a dildo in a harness at her crotch and “peg” him; alternatively, she can fill his ass-pussy with a dildo on a permanent or semi-permanent basis; for greater stimulation, a vibrating dildo is recommended. The femdom should be prepared for any or all of these activities to bring the male to orgasm. As always, he should be required to feed upon his cream and taught to find the taste pleasing.

The femdom should be prepared to reward her feminized partner when he performs well as a lesbian, especially if his attentions bring her to orgasm.

Petticoat Passions

Continuing the series of essays in femdom and feminization

One surprising element of classic feminization techniques is the effect of petticoats on the submissive male. Just the sound of nylon and taffeta rustling can bring a femboy to arousal…and feeling those rustles tickle his genitals will reduce him to utter girlishness.

Therefore, an early introduction of petticoats to his wardrobe is essential. If you are feminizing a school-age boy, a classic schoolgirl’s skirt with a layer (or two!) of pettis beneath it will serve two purposes. On the visual side, it will forcibly expose his legs to view, especially when seated. On the psychological side, it will subject him to strong feelings of youthful girliness. On the cultural side, it will make him the object of humiliating teasing from his feminine classmates.

If, on the other side, you are dealing with an older subject, in his teens or twenties, it may be preferable to put him into the classic French maid’s uniform. Once again, there will be an unavoidable exposure, but it will also turn the potential sissy into a figure of servitude…and one with a cultural aspect of sexual attraction. Combined with suitable hose and heels (to be explored in a future essay in this series), it combines beauty, sexuality, and submission into a single package.

Of course, there is also the question of the fully adult feminized male—often one who has chosen his own path to femininity, but without encountering female domination yet. In such cases, it is wise to take control of his wardrobe choices as soon as possible…and be sure thar visible and audible petticoats are part of his regular attire. For daily wear, the 1950s housewife style is appropriate—think June Cleaver or Donna Reed. For evenings out, a glamorous short cocktail dress, again with pettis beneath, the more the better. Be sure your femdom friends know to request peeks at his panties surrounded by the flounces of his underskirts.

Yes, the petticoat is an essential part of any feminized male’s clothing—at any age and at any stage of his path to girlhood.

Salon Thrills

Continuine the series of essays on femnization

Watch any male as he passes a beauty salon. His eyes will turn to see what is happening. You may think he is hoping to see a beautiful woman. You’d be wrong—he is imagining himself undergoing those wondrous procedures, becoming a lovely feminine creature.

The male who longs to be feminized (by which we mean every male) is particularly enthralled to the many things women do to make their beautiful—especially permanent waves and curler sets. A feminized male loves to be seen in curlers, sitting under a dryer. He smiles knowing he will be a completely different person when the process is done. And while he endures the tightness of the curlers and the heat of the dryer, he offers up his hands and feet for even more girly treatments. He will have long, gleaming nails on his hands and cute, sparkling toes.

Of course, he is also humiliated as the real women in the shop grin and titter at his transformation. They see him gasp when he catches a glimpse of his new look in the mirror or when he recognizes a friend or neighbor undergoing the same treatment. He sighs as he feels the cosmetician’s brushes on his eyelid and cheeks. He blinks as she attaches long, heavy false lashes to his eyes. He licks his lips after the thick coating of bright, sweet color is applied.

He hangs hie head as his Mistress escorts him off the premises, with the sound of applause and laughter from the salon staff and their female customers ringing in his newly pierced ears. One more step on his road to total girliness is done.

Ashamed and Aroused

Continuing a series on female domination and feminization

“I’m so ashamed and humiliated to be wearing a dress…and my cock is so stiff and hard because of it!”

A frequent comment from a submissive feminized male, as he discovers that he is aroused not only by the look and feel of feminine attire, but by the emotions they stir—primarily ones of embarrassment and shame. He learns that the more he is aroused by being seen as a sissy, the more he is humiliated by it…and as his humiliation grows, his arousal grows. The combination only makes his newly feminine nature and appearance more appealing, more sexually satisfying, more desirable.

The wise femdom will use this to increase his submission to her. When he expresses these feelings, when she sees his cock grow in his pretty panties, she will order him to lower them, so she can bring him to orgasm with her hands. This will further cement the relationship between looking and feeling girlish with sexual satisfaction in his mind. “If I wear pretty clothes, I will get to come,” he realizes. She will do everything she can to increase his humiliation, exposing his feminized self to others—especially attractive women and girls—making sure they see his arousal and embarrassment and that they openly comment upon it.

The femdom should prolong these experiences until the sissy begs for sexual release. She is in charge; she controls the time, place and circumstance of his orgasms. He will learn that the more feminine and obedient he is, the more he will be allowed to come.

Tit-Envy

The third in a continuing series on the nature of female domination and feminization.

In psychology, there’s something called “penis envy” defined as “a stage in Sigmund Freud's theory of female psychosexual development, where girls experience anxiety upon realizing they don't have a penis, leading to a transition in their understanding of sexuality and attachment. This stage is thought to begin the shift from attachment to the mother to competing with the mother for the father's attention and affection.” I have never believed in it.

On the other hand, I firmly believe in “tit envy,” which I describe as a male desire to have breasts, to have a secondary erotic zone just as women do. This is not a transitory phase, as “penis envy” is, but one that—once it develops—is part of the male’s psychosexual makeup. It begins at puberty, when he first realizes that girls are physically different from boys, and in ways that make them very attractive. He starts to notice the attention that a well-endowed, buxom female attracts, from women as well as men.

This stirs something in his “girl within” (see last week’s essay in this series) and in his desire to explore his feminine side, it manifests as wanting (perhaps even craving) that same attention for himself—and he searches for a way to have a similar shape. There are, of course, various ways to achieve this. The simplest is to wear a bra with falsies of the desired size; in fact, a bra is generally the second piece of female attire the male will try (after panties, of course). There are other methods, including more elaborate accessories (https://www.roanyer.com/d-curve-silicone-breast-plate-bottom-free-east-west-shape) and more permanent ones, such as silicone implants.

Basically, the male being feminized (whether of his own accord or at the direction of a dominant woman) wants to be as beautiful, as attractive, as sexy as he can manage.

The Girl Within

Every male secretly wishes he could look and act like a woman, at least part of the time. And, if given the opportunity, would choose to do it more often.

There are three reasons for this—biological, psychological, cultural.

1. Biological: We all begin life as female in the womb. That pesky Y chromosome doesn’t begin to exert its influence until about the third month. What’s more, the male hormone—testosterone—doesn’t really overwhelm the female one—estrogen—until puberty sets in, for most males around 12 to 13 years of age.

2. Psychological: Due to those biological facts, males spend their formative years awash in female hormones, which have psychological as well as physical effects. Emotionally, a prepubescent male is as feminine as his sister or mother. By maturity, his male hormones have had only five or six years to counteract that feminine conditioning.

3. Cultural: A prepubescent boy—especially one with sisters or other close female relatives—will observe those girls being fussed over, dressed, even spoiled by the adults in his life. Even his mother—his primary caregiver—will pay more attention to his female siblings or cousins than to him. This leads to envy and a desire to be treated similarly.

At puberty, as his interest in sex grows, the male equates all the attention he craves with his equal desire for female companionship. “If only I were more like a girl, the girls would like me more,” he thinks. After all, he has witnessed how all the important women in his life have treated girls as veritable princesses, while ignoring his own need for their loving care. What’s more, he observes how feminine attire enhances the girl’s appeal, drawing attention to their most attractive aspects; but male attire hides everything that might make him appear more girlish and thus more lovable.

He watches the girls in his age group as they emphasize their beauty with clothes and makeup. “I could be as pretty as they are,” he decides, and seeks to free the feminine within him.

FemDom is Natural

This will be (I hope) the first in a series of essays on topics that concern the content of this blog.

Female domination is actually the natural state of human relations.

Though they have been conditioned to reject it, men prefer being under superior feminine control. Observe the ways a single man attempts to attract a female companion—he always submits to her preferences: “Where do you want to go, dear?” “Do you like my beard?” It’s her choices (in reality, her demands) that set the course. Once partnered (in marriage or other co-habitation), the man gives further control to the woman—she is in charge of decorating the home, of raising the offspring, of all that they share.

The image of the man in charge in the bedroom is also a myth. Unless he is a brutal rapist, the male defers to the woman’s desires…as to when and how sex is to occur, especially. Though the popular view is that cuddling and caressing are the woman’s preference, experience shows that men enjoy a softer, more “romantic” encounter. The idea of “wham-bam, thank you, ma’am” is a cultural icon created to make men feel stronger than they naturally are. Remember, it is the female who can experience multiple orgasms in a short time in rapid succession, while the male may require long periods of rest between successful arousals.

The truly happy man is one who has surrendered to the bliss of feminine control—not only of his sex life, but of everything. Secretly (and often, not so secretly), a man longs to be seen as docile and obedient. Given the opportunity, he will readily accept feminization. It doesn’t take much to tempt him to try it—a pretty, soft pair of panties embracing his genitals, the sweet taste of lipstick, the relaxing feel of a mani-pedi. Eventually, he is begging for smooth, hairless legs wrapped in nylon or silk hose. He will even endure the discomfort of high heels in order for his legs to look their best.

Don’t fall for the false idea of male control….go ahead and give in to the reality of female domination.