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The Janus Syndrome--2016-2017

Every year about this time, I post about how well I met my goals for the old year and what my goals for the new year will be. (BTW, Janus is the two-faced Roman god who looked both backward and forward, making him the patron of doorways and of the new year, hence January being named for him.)

Last year's goals:

1. Dress at least once a month (again).

Looking back over my postings, I see I managed this. Not a month went by that I didn't dress at least once.

2. Post almost every day.

I seem to have managed this, for the most part. As of the day I wrote up this post, I had 352 postings in 2016.

3. Finish a new story as often as possible (every two months?).

Didn't really make this goal, although I did get two new stories written and posted and a third begun (before I hit a roadblock on it); I promise I'll try to at least finish that one soon.

4. Start a tumblr page (not sure how it will differ from this blog, but I want to give it a shot).

Accomplished this and you can see the results here.

Goals for 2017:

1. Continue to dress at least once a month; this one already has a good start, as I have firm plans for dressing in January and February.

2. Post almost every day....with a goal to breaking this year's posting total.

3. Post more unusual stuff...like the recent one about the psychology of forced feminization.

4. Cull the wardrobe of the stuff that doesn't really fit.

Happy New Year!

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Drawing Lesson

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Poll Results--Dani's Best Look, Week 6

Delayed by one week, here's the top choice from the latest round:

And here are the choices for the next round:

The blue striped dress is from Kmart's Attention line, bought in March 2012; the shoes are Fioni "In the Mix" navy felt peep-toe pumps from Payless in February 2011. Other accessories are the blue cloche hat, chunky and silver jewelry, and black hose.

The little black dress is from Target's Mossimo line, purchased in February 2010; the shoes are Fioni "Loveit" black patent pumps, from Payless in May 2011. Other accessories are a black headband, pearls, and black hose.

The green polka-dot belted peplum dress is by Stitch Btween, bought at Forman Mills in March 2014; the shoes are Mossimo "Viveca Blingy" green suede pumps, from Target in February 2013. Other accessories are the black hat, pearls, and black hose.











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Rent-a-Sissy

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Happy Christmas to All...

[My annual Christmas greeting, first posted in 2007.]

...and to all a Good Night!"...as Clement Clark Moore wrote. (And, yes, he did write "Happy Christmas," not "Merry....")

I'll probably not be blogging very much over the next few weeks, so Happy New Year as well. I thought this was an opportunity to thank everybody who has commented here, who has linked to here, who reads here regularly.

And a chance to talk about how I feel about Christmas. I'm with Charles Dickens, who put these words into the mouth of Scrooge's nephew, Fred: "I have always thought of Christmas time, when it has come round -- apart from the veneration due to its sacred name and origin, if anything belonging to it can be apart from that -- as a good time: a kind, forgiving, charitable, pleasant time: the only time I know of, in the long calendar of the year, when men and women seem by one consent to open their shut-up hearts freely, and to think of people below them as if they really were fellow-passengers to the grave, and not another race of creatures bound on other journeys. And therefore, uncle, though it has never put a scrap of gold or silver in my pocket, I believe that it has done me good, and will do me good; and I say, God bless it!"

There is practically no version of A Christmas Carol that I cannot stand to watch at least once, although I have a favorite--the 1984 TV version starring George C. Scott, which I consider closest to both the spirit and the letter of Dickens' work. I will confess a soft spot for The Muppet Christmas Carol, in part because my kids love it so (despite their being college graduates now).

So I will close this post with the immortal words of Tiny Tim:

God bless us, everyone!

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Dessert Course

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Wardrobe Change

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Poll Results--Change in Plans

Perhaps because of the holiday season, response rate on the current round of the "Dani's Best Look" survey has been very light...about half what the previous rounds have achieved. So I'm leaving it up for another week.

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Posture Punishment

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December Dressing 3: Great in Green

There was a time when I thought green was not my best color...



The green linen blouse is from Kmart's Jaclyn Smith line in September 2012; the green crepe leaf print skirt is also Jaclyn Smith, bought at the same time to go with the blouse; the shoes are Mossimo "Viveca Blingy" green suede pumps from Target in February 2013. Other accessories are a brown fedora, gold jewelry, green scarf, and natural hose.



And a portrait:

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December Dressing 2: Unusual Stripes

The pattern on this dress is unusual, isn't it?



The dress with geometric stripes is by Tacera, bought at Ross in July 2015; the shoes are Christian Siriano "Kate" turquoise-and-white platform peeptoe pumps from Payless in May 2015. Other accessories are a blue bow, blue jewelry, and natural hose.



Two portraits:

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December Dressing 1: Bluer than Velvet...

...was the night....Someday I'll stop quoting Bobby Vinton when I post pictures with this dress!



The blue velvet dress is from Kmart's Basic Editions line, found in a thrift shop in November 2011; the shoes are Moda Spana pewter spike heel pumps, a thrift shop find in November 2012. Other accessories are a blue floral headband, silver jewelry, silver blet, and natural hose.



Just one portrait with this set:

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Punishment Display

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The Psychology of Forced Feminization, Part 2

As promised, a look at the humiliation aspects of forced femme, as discussed in this article:

The psychology of forced feminisation and humiliation – part-2

The most important thing to bear in mind if you are troubled by fantasies that involve humiliation (be they forced feminisation or sado masochism) is that such fantasies are extremely common. While there seem to be some personality types that do not enjoy it, I would argue that the vast majority of people do, and that humiliation and control are universal tools of arousal.

Humiliation exists right across the sexual spectrum across all orientations and different ‘fetishes.’ Furthermore, being dominated and forced to perform sex acts on the dominator, or strangers, or an entire bus load of strangers, appears in the fantasies of men and women, gay and straight, the world over.

Clothing often plays a part in such fantasies; of course, in BDSM it is often the wearing of a hood or entire latex suit, while some women like the idea of being dressed in lingerie clearly designed to illicit sexual excitement… and so on and so on. Therefore, if you are a crossdreamer who thinks that the whole being – dressed and forced to service men and women sexually – is unique to your fantasies, then you are mistaken.

But why is humiliation arousing in the first place? This is a fascinating question that has not been satisfactorily answered by anybody. All we have are the usual collection of psychological myths…ie… a series of semi-scientific narratives that allow us to make sense of our experience.

If you put a gun to my head and forced me to come up with my own theory, I would shy away from psychoanalytic explanations and move towards biological ones. I suspect that masochism derives from two principles of mating patterns. These patterns are seen in various species of mammals where…

1. A hierarchical species presents a dominant member as more desirable.

and/ or…

2. A universal drive towards seeking a strong, healthy mate.

In other words, I suspect that the humiliation/control angle stimulates a deeply held biological drive towards those who dominate the hierarchy, or – in being utterly controled by a superior / stronger mate – we feel we have found a strong dependable vessel to pass on our genes and are thus sexually drawn towards such strength.

...you must understand something about humiliation in a sexual context: humiliation must be personalised to the submissive and WORKS BEST IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO BE HUMILIATED ABOUT. Thus…

– A crossdreamer being dominated will like to be called a ‘filthy slut’ or depending on his interpretation of the term – ‘a dirty sissy’ (if the term is another word for ‘gay’ he won’t like it… if it means a man who is effeminate, he will).

The important point is this… if you have forced feminisation fantasies or forced lesbian fantasies or cuckolding fantasies, there is nothing weird specifically about you. It is a logical consequence of liking – to some degree – (as most people do) a bit of humiliation now and again. Liking both humiliation and crossdressing, for example, makes it unavoidable that you will fantasise about being humiliated crossdressing because it is the easiest, most available means of humiliating you.

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The Psychology of Forced Feminization

In an attempt to find different kinds of things to post here, I ran across this article:

The Psychology of Forced Feminization

I will quote some of the more interesting parts of it.

The most important thing to note about forced feminisation is that it is not ‘forced.’ Forced feminisation would be to take a heterosexual male with no crossdressing desires, force him to wear women’s clothes and then make him perform sex acts on men. That would be truly ‘forced.’

There is nothing that a crossdreamer does in his forced feminisation fantasy that he would not want to do anyway. In reality it should be called ‘delegated feminisation’ because the dominatrix is giving him what he wants. Therefore, if the advent of a dominatrix allows him to act out his deepest fantasies, why is he being forced? Your answer maybe ‘yes, but that’s all they would be – fantasies – the advent of the dominatrix forces him to actually fulfill them.’ And I would answer, ‘yes… exactly.’

A part of forced feminisation fantasies, and all forced fantasies, is really logistical: if it’s forced then its more likely to happen, which makes the fantasy more realistic, which makes it more arousing. Almost all fantasies that carry social shame and/or are difficult to execute, will inevitable throw up a forced version. It is an intrinsic property of so called ‘dirty’ fantasies.

Being forced, therefore, is like the Pavlov’s bell of their fantasy. The second they lay eyes on the latex clad dominatrix they salivate… because they know they can not back down, they can not escape… their deepest fantasy is about to be presented on a plate. ‘Forced’… no way: it is the dominatrix who is serving the submissive.

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Which is Which?

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Waiting Her Turn

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Dani Turns Nine

It's the week of Dani's birthday. Nine years ago this week, I bought my first feminine attire in some 30 years, and Dani's on-line life began.

As usual, I celebrate with a look at the best pictures from the past 12 months.



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Poll Results--Dani's Best Look, Week 5

Here's the winner in this round:

And here are the choices for the next round:

The blue print dress is by Mlle Gabrielle, bought at Forman Mills in May 2014; the shoes are Mossimo "Valonia" blue patent pumps, from Target in March 2009. Other accessories are a blue bow, silver jewelry, and black hose.

The blue rectangle print dress is by Fashion Bug, bought in October 2012; the shoes are Dollhouse "Harlot" croc-print pumps, from Shoe Dept. in January 2010. Other accessories are the black hat, silver jewelry, and natural hose.

The brown-black checked dress is by Mlle. Gabrielle, bought at Annie Sez in October 2014; the shoes are Christian Siriano "Shanghai" neutral peep-toe pumps, from Payless in April 2011. Other accessories are the black hat, gold jewelry, black belt, and natural hose.








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