Friday, June 30, 2017

How do I introduce my girlfriend or boyfriend to my kink?

Some ideas on how to tell your significant other about your unusual interests:

Even people with common sexual kinks may fear sharing when they don't know how their lover will respond. Newcomers to the online erotic hypnosis community often ask how they can introduce their boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse to their kink without making it sound too weird. And the community has offered some suggestions.

The most common recommendation is to share a book, a movie or a TV show that inspires your fantasies with this particular kink. Well written stories have a special ability to engage our imaginations and our emotions. Yet because the action happens to someone else (usually an imaginary character) the story can also provide a distance that protects us from taking the action personally.

The erotic hypnosis community has an advantage here. Mind control is one of the most prevalent themes in popular fiction. Hundreds of books, movies and TV programs showed us pretty girls getting hypnotized including Batman, Gilligan's Island, Get Smart, Lost in Space, Hart to Hart, Charlies Angels, Superfriends, Scooby Doo and Underdog. Mind control was also prevalent in comic books like The Avengers, Daredevil, Superman, and Wonder Woman.

Our community has often shared conversations about how watching these shows as kids led to our adult interest in erotic hypnosis. And I know of at least one person who, after following this discussion, went to his girlfriend and opened a conversation with "Honey, I found this discussion forum where people were talking about how watching Saturday morning cartoons led to their hypnosis fetish". He reported that she broke out laughing and that led to a relaxed and enjoyable conversation. It even helped her open up and share her sexual interests with him.

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