Crossdressing Self-Acceptance

Some advice from this site:

Picture this... you've been cross dressing in secret for years, but being 'in the closet' is starting to suffocate you. You've finally realised that you can't live your whole life this way and make a life-changing decision to confront your fears and come out. You feel that coming out will allow you to develop and grow as a human being and express yourself as the individual you really are.

Of course, you know it's not going to be easy. You are afraid of what people will say and are worried they'll make fun of you. Everyone who's previously respected and admired you - your work colleagues, family, friends and acquaintances - will think you've lost it. You're also anxious about being able to look good enough to go out unnoticed.

If you've met any cross dressers, you'll know this familiar story.

So, what should a cross dresser in this situation do to aid a smooth transition? The first, and arguably most important matter to address is self-image. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see a man in a dress? Or do you see a woman? Maybe you see an absolute stunner? Regardless of your appearance (however good it may be), if you don't have a strong self-image, straightaway your fear or nervousness will show. This makes people wonder what you're afraid or nervous about, so they examine you further and figure it out.

A healthy self-image starts with a heartfelt belief that you're not sick, perverted or strange. You're a human being and have chosen to express the feminine side of your personality by presenting yourself as a woman. If you're at peace with yourself and accept the person you really are, the fear need not give you away.

Most people aren't particularly observant. If you confidently present yourself as a woman, no-one has any reason to think that you're not. Even if you are read, you're likely to be taken at face value because your self-image is strong. People rarely challenge anyone who is self-confident and comfortable with the way they look.

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